Take control

The things that happen aren’t happening to you, for you, or against you. They are just happening. You are not here to control what happens. Your job is to control how you react to what happens. The way you react to everything that happens will determine how your life unfolds from that point on.


How we fix this huge problem (my latest sermon)

In the video i have on Youtube video featuring my daughter Kellie (http://www.youtube.com/seadaddy101/dontdrinkanddrive), i talk about consequences for your choices affecting the lives of others. I make a plea to people to be responsible. Christ is asking the same from us. He wants us to take care of ourselves and our brothers and sisters, and others around us. Matthew 22:36-40 (NKJV)

“Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?”

Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.” So knowing our responsibility and our “role” in life, we can begin to move forward toward that goal of being able to handle EVERYTHING with love. I realized that Mathew Moore (the man that killed my daughter Kellie) wasn’t doing anything differently than myself, he was just out “having a good ol’ time” and then bam! His “choices” had devastating consequences on innocent people. I had just been lucky up until that point, i realized i had drawn many long straws compared to Mr. Moore. So many other people just like Mathew Moore and myself were choosing to “have fun” and party, never thinking there would be devastating consequences for our selfish acts. I realized that the problem was huge, so many people with “selfish” behavior all out for number one. How do we change such a huge problem? I was determined to find an answer. I couldn’t stand the thought of another family suffering the horror our family was experiencing. I found a pretty simple solution through prayer and study of Gods word. I read about this incredible man they called Jesus. His life was full of sacrificial service to others. In everything he did, there was love. He gave mercy, kindness, forgiveness, and love to all that sought Him, and He still does. So here i was, knowing my “duty” as a Christian and now had a foundation for my new life of good choices, and i knew there was sacrifice and even the possibility of prison or death involved in serving God. I knew this because i’ve read about the lives of these great men and women of God and knew that i was to emulate their lives as a fellow Christian. They sacrificed, they served. People were loving one another, caring for those around them, it caught on big and spread around the globe. In many ways people have lost that simple message from God. If Mathew Moore had been living his life loving and caring for others, that night would have never happened. I couldn’t change the choices Mathew Moore made, but i could change my choices, and i did. I made a choice to step away from the life i had chosen for myself and do what Christ has instructed us all to do. I changed myself and am still changing, i’m also working on those around me to help them make better choices with their lives. Then i will teach them to do the same with their family and friends. That is how we change our communities, that is how we change society, that is how we change the world! Is it huge? yes, but not impossible. It starts with you. It is very important to reach out to others and show that sacrificial love to. That is how they experience Christ is through us, loving, forgiving, and giving grace and mercy to them. Are you gonna suffer for it? Did Christ? Yes and yes, but our sacrifice doesn’t matter because this isn’t our home. We are simply soldiers for Christ that have been sent away from home to battle evil with good, it’s as simple as that. We have the free will to choose, good choices or bad choices, selfish or selfless, loving and sacrificing or hateful and greedy. If your making both good and bad choices then you are still part of the problem, that’s why it is important to understand Christs mercy and forgiveness. We will never reach perfection but we should ALL strive for it. It changes you. Every step i make toward Him, He blesses me. I am not perfect, but Christ loves me. Others around me aren’t perfect but i will love them Just like Christ loves me. Everything i needed to move forward was given to me through love. I was able to forgive Mathew Moore because Christ forgave me of my awful sins that i never got caught for. We are all the same, we all have free will and we all make our own choices. If more “Christians” would step up and start acting like Christ, it would change the world. Are you willing to commit to a better life today? Have you had enough of all the horrible things in this world? Are you willing to pick up your cross and suffer to serve those around you? Are you willing to be the difference you want to see? It is as simple as making a decision to do it, and then start doing it. The apostle Paul was a great example after Christ. He was always on the move for God, suffering, sacrificing and teaching others to do the same in the name of God, all of his Christian walk he sacrificed and he endured till the end! 2 Timothy 4:7-8 (NKJV)

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Finally, there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give to me on that Day, and not to me only but also to all who have loved His appearing.

Paul was not a slacker. He went out and sought those in need, he cared for those around him, he sacrificed. You don’t read about these men getting anything to serve their selfish desires. That is the life they put aside and now allowed Christ to live through them. That is what we do, put our selfish lives aside and serve God the way He intended. Don’t make a mockery out of Christianity and call yourself a Christian if you’re not living by the example laid before you through the word and life of God Himself. This isn’t for sissy’s and whimps, it is a true battle of good and evil and we are feeding one beast or the other Which one are you feeding with your choices? The battle is real, our choices have consequences, good and bad.

I pray for our brothers and sisters sacrificing for the Lord. I pray that more people will start making choices out of love instead of selfishness. I cant wait to go home and see the Lord. Meanwhile, i will continue to serve Him and live the way He showed us all to live. Read Matthew 25:31-46 and ask yourself if you measure up. Go be the difference my friends.

LiveLeak.com – Dont Drink and Drive – The Victim’s Side of The Trauma

This was one of the first stories done about our video. It was viewed nearly 500,000 times on their site. Our goal is to reach every potential driver to make an impact on their thought process. Please continue to share this on all your social sites and with your family, friends & coworkers.
Remember, change starts with you and me, then we teach those close to us how to do the same, and so on.
Go be the difference my friends.
John Seaman


Our vision for the new year 2015

The most important lesson I learned during my time with my daughter was “life is not about me”. I found myself comforting others every day. Friends and family were shattered by this tragedy and it seemed that many of them were turning to me for comfort. This made me grow as a man and mature beyond my years. I started to get a vision of what life was really about. I would see homeless people daily outside the hospital, the mission was right across the street and it was always over crowded. I had an apartment in north Dallas, it was empty and I only went there to shower and shave every few days. I ended up helping a couple homeless ladies in their 60’s by letting them use my apartment to start over. One lady, Kathy, succeeded and is doing great with her own place in Dallas. The other returned to drugs and I continue to hope & pray for her. After Kellie passed away I made arrangements to come home. I found out that everything I owned including my car had been stolen so I had nothing to come home to. Then I remembered this man named Cliff Williams who had offered to help me in the past. I knew he was a pastor who took in strays and society outcasts and helped them change their lives, it was a perfect fit for me. I contacted Cliff and we spoke for about 15 minutes, he told me I was welcome to live there. What a blessing to find someone so loving and genuine, I fell right into place. He allowed me to bring homeless people back to his ranch and help them change their lives. After 7 or 8 months I had moved into a big house in Marysville, Washington where I continue to help people and I’m a pastor in training. I have a vision to help drug addicts, homeless people and convicts change their lives, Pastor Cliff has been doing it for 25 years so I have a great leader to help me succeed in this venture. My son and I want to buy a ranch and use it to help both the animals for Kellie’s Critters Rescue and Rehab (http://www.facebook.com/ForTheLoveOfKellie) as well as the above mentioned people. We want to be able to do this without asking them for money, we want to offer love, grace and mercy at no cost to them. We will rely on money we make working and donations from the public. If you would like to help us reach our vision you can click on our link below. Our vision is to change the society that has taken Kellie from us. They are not all bad people, a lot of them have made bad choices or were hit with horrible circumstances like I was.
God Bless you all and thank you for the continued prayers and support.

Update January 2015

Thank you all for your continued love and support. Kellie passed away June 18, 2013. Mathew Moore (the drunk driver) received 15 years and is eligible for parole in about 5 years. I will be contacting him soon and update our conversations here. All the medical bills have been paid by the state of Texas, friends, family and doctors all pulled together to relieve our burden. Several fake donations sites have been made in my daughters name, don’t be fooled. We are still raising money for Kellie’s son Jeremiuh and for Kellie’s Critters Rescue & Rehab (we are on facebook) which is an animal rescue facility I started to honor my daughters passion for animals. Our goal is to get some land and facilities for 100 plus critters and we also want to help people rehab from drugs and alcohol at our facility. We are currently doing this on a small scale but we have a big vision to change society! If you would like to donate, click this link: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=T2ULDPBVQC3J8
God bless you all and thank you again for the prayers, encouragement and support.